A.M. Costa Rica's
  
Sixth News Page


San José, Costa Rica || Friday Edition, November 17, 2017 || Vol. 17, No. 207
Calendar
Opinion
Classifieds
Real Estate
Lifestyle
Food
About us
 

Couples in Trouble

Rectangulo110117.jpg
By Lucinda Gray Ph.D.


Our primary partnerships are deeply important for well-being, both physical and emotional. Relationship problems are a cause of suffering for far too many couples. The good news is that there are ways to grow intimacy and love.

Everyone seems to long for intimacy, but too often we are afraid to be fully known by another.  

True intimacy is intense and is often scary because so many people fear that if anyone really discovers who they are they will find something wrong and even ugly. I believe that loving is a deeply vulnerable surrender.

In loving we allow another to see us as we truly are, we have to let the guard down.

We long for this intimacy, but when it comes it is very intense and vulnerable. In order to be fully known we let go of having to be perfect.

We let him/her see our flaws out front.

This means we have to let ourselves be less than perfect. And let that be OK. We have to admit to ourselves and our partner how important he or she is.

There is fear of loss with this surrender. “I love you so much. I would be devastated if you left me, or something happened to you.”

Coming to couple therapy takes courage. It is also a statement of your commitment to the relationship, so that is a positive sign in itself. You may have fears. Your partner will be there to defend him/herself, and knows your faults and flaws better than anyone.

He or she can bust you on your stuff in front of the therapist. It is essential for the therapist to help you feel safe by not judging or taking sides. I tell couples that I work for the success of the relationship rather than either of them.
 
It is hard for folks to admit to themselves that they need the help of a therapist. Many couples don’t come to therapy until repeated injuries have piled up and it is too late to save the relationship.

This is very sad to me. It is best to seek help before you actually question the bond. Come when you have problems to work out but don’t wait until both of you are stuck in defensiveness.  

I have learned that people’s faults can be spoken of without injury when spoken with no negative tone, simply as facts. For example—“of course you’re angry with him, how could you not be angry. Anyone in your situation would feel the way you do.”

Old injuries, no matter how old can be healed. I learned this over the years in my own life and from watching it happen in my office. Forgiveness is possible, and I work with clients to teach them how to get there.

Let’s say you do something that hurts your partner. Just saying you’re sorry doesn’t work by itself. Getting defensive and blaming the other doesn’t work either. It makes the injury worse. Telling the other that he or she shouldn’t feel the way they do doesn’t work because it invalidates the personal experience of your partner.

Rectangulo110117.jpg
CouplesTrouble111717.jpg
A.M. Costa Rica wire services photo       
...
Getting defensive and blaming the other
doesn’t work either.


Even saying you’re sorry and it was not your intention to hurt it is never enough.

In my experience real empathy is the essential ingredient that makes forgiveness possible.  Let me explain. Whoever hurt the other must find a way to empathy, to be able to say some sentence starting with—“I can see how you might feel that way. I would feel like that if I was in your shoes.”

What does work is to admit that you did in fact hurt the other person and you can see how that would have hurt. This is the hard part.  You have to be fully honest and confess. Maybe you wanted to hurt your partner in that moment because you also were hurt and so you were angry.

Admitting that may lead to another round of work on your partner’s side, explaining his/her own part in the problem.

This admitting the truth makes you vulnerable, but it is real intimacy and from that deeper connection love can grow. Relief comes along the way. When we feel truly and fully seen and heard, forgiveness is natural.

According to Carl Rogers, founder of Client Centered Therapy the essential ingredients for effective therapy are empathy, congruence and unconditional positive regard. This also applies to couples in relationship. This means you need to demonstrate empathy in working things out. Congruence means being truly honest about your feelings. If you try to seem nicer than you really feel your partner will sense that and lose trust.

Your body language and words must convey the whole truth. Unconditional positive regard is constancy of liking as well as loving.  All of these say “I love you and I am willing.” 

Lucinda Gray Ph.D. is a psychologist in International practice. She can be reached at  www.lucindagray.com
.....
Real estate for sale (paid category)

44 LOTS FOR SALE IN GATED COMMUNITY

PLAYA AVELLANA, TAMARINDO, GUANACASTE
....

NewH110717.gif

Condominio Monte Donato II, is an unpretentious gated community, offering 44 lots at very accessible prices starting at only $19.995 and a monthly HOA fee of $28.

Located near Playa Avellanas and Hacienda Pinilla, at 3 miles from the beach. The project is located in a very quiet rural area. You will only hear sounds of birds and monkeys.  Playa Avellanas is one of the most beautiful beaches of Costa Rica and a Surfer’s paradise.

Common areas: Swimming pool, Rancho, shower, restroom, soccer field, play ground

Water: The project has its own well and a 13,200 Gallon storage tank.

Security: Guard lives on the premises. Perimeter enclosure.

Construction: No zoning plan. You can build when you want, what you want!

Lot Sizes around 250m2 / 2700 sq. ft.

For detailed information www.montedonato2.com/index

Cell: +506-8479-2384 - US Toll-Free: 1-888-263-2631

-English spoken
- Se habla español
- On parle français
- We spreken Nederlands




Etlinger Farm rollover
Beautiful farm in excellent location
At only an hour's drive from San José, minutes from Guápiles, and boardering Braulio Carrillo National Park, Etlingera Farms is one heck of an amazing farm. We purchased this 77-acre farm 10 years ago after many trips, and an exhaustive search. It has a little bit of everything we were looking for and a whole lot of beauty. Our average elevation of 600 meters helps to keep Bella Vista cool year round. This farm is nearly level with a semi-modern 2-bedroom house. A fairly rustic 2-bedroom caretaker's home. And, a comfortable, 1-bedroom cabin where we stay. We have 2 large barns, a chicken coop, and a 3-stall pig pen. There are two tilapia ponds and 2 hectarias, (approximately 5 acres) of different species of bananas. The property boarders Rio Blanco in the rear and has 300 meters of public road frontage. Water, electricity, and telephone are all serviced by public utility. Etlingera Farms was reforested with several thousand wood trees of different tropical varieties. We truly believe this farm is spectacular. Our neighbors are selling for as much as $20 per meter. We are negotiable, motivated and open to offers. Our location can be found by searching Etlingera Farms on Google Maps. Our webpage is www.etlingerafarms.com and photo album can be found at www.ticorico.com
CODE 9267-9/28/17


rollover
Owner Financing in San Ramon
New Construction, and Ocean View 
Brand new home with 4-plus bedrooms and 3 baths all overlooking an incredible 180-degree view of the Pacific Ocean and mountains. Located only 45 minutes from the San Jose airport and about the same to the Pacific Ocean.  The lower level could be
used as a separate apartment or mother-in-law setup. Home includes HUGE master  suite, CLOSETS,
 custom cabinets, granite counter tops, high wood ceilings, and all in an area that is 70-80 degrees year round. 
Priced at $199,000. Completion date is January.  See the Virtual Tour CLICK HERE or see our site here  www.whynotcostarica.com. If you would like to take a look at this amazing house, please give me a call at  Costa Rica # 506-8755-6743 or if from the States call # 509-570-1928 or email tim@whynotcostarica.com 
9143-2/3/17


Business for sale or lease (paid category)

Fishing Lodge for sale in Panama

DanielPeavy

Fishing Lodge For Sale In Panama. To many assets to
 list all.  Restaurant, bar, pool, 12 cabins, two 1 bedroom duplex, 3 hectares on the beach, 4 boats, boat storage,
boat ramp, 22 foot panga and more.  Remote and
Beautiful location on the fishing grounds. Built in
clientele list and a turn key operation. For more information and asking price our email address:
aquaad@hawaii.rr.com   Visit the site www.hookedonpanama.com

9284-3/22/18   



Live the dream!
Several profitable businesses, including a regional radio station, are for sale in Costa Rica. Certain purchases can provide the new owner with residency as well as a great lifestyle. So live your dream while making a profit. Contact: manager@crbusiness.biz.

Real estate brokers and agents (paid category)
CENTURY 21 JACÓ BEACH
Century 21

A Name You Trust,
Professionalism You Deserve

Tom Ghormley and the dream team!
Owner/Broker
in CR since 1979

Buying? Selling? Renting?
We Can Do It!
Let us help you live your dreams!
Beachfront, Views, Mountains,
Beaches, Houses, Condos,
Hotels, Restaurants, Projects,
Commercial, Investments and more

 Century 21 Jacó Beach
Playa Jacó, Puntarenas, Costa Rica
U. S. A. phone numbers:  (213) 283-5168 
or Toll Free: (877) 746-3868
Costa Rica phone number: (506) 2643-3356
Email: info@c21jaco.com
Web: www.c21jaco.com
9215-3/22/18


Remax Tamarindo
www.remax-oceansurf-cr.com The experts in buying property in Costa Rica, with more than 20 years experience and the largest networked team of agents in the country.  We can help you learn if investing in Costa Rica is right for you with our low-key, educational approach to sales. Our professional agents can tell you more about Costa Rica properties, including condos, homes, lots and & commercial real estate. Twelve (12) agents to serve you, from Playa Marbella to Playa Dante in the Guanacaste, through our Tamarindo and Flamingo offices. For more information, please contact our local phones: 506-2653-0073 Tamarindo / 506-2201-9056 Flamingo ~ Toll Free: 1-866-976-8898 or email:  info@remax-oceansurf-cr.com  or click here www.remax-oceansurf-cr.com
9145-1/2918


ReMax Playas del
                          Coco
We are an award-winning Team of Professional Agents working with Costa Rica’s #1 Selling Real Estate Agency RE/MAX Prestige Ocean Properties. Get to KNOW, LIKE & TRUST us and let us help you find YOUR Pura Vida! We have over 30 years of experience to educate our buyers and sellers in all aspects of Real Estate.  For Information on condos, homes, lots, farms, ranches, commercial or development property
CONTACT US TODAY with NO OBLIGATION whatsoever.

Link to Playas del Coco listings page HERE

Link to Playa Panama listings page HERE

Link to Playa Hermosa listings page HERE
Link to Peninsula Papagayo listings page HERE

Link to Playa Matapalo listings page HERE
Toll Free 1-877-293-1456
Email: michael@costarica-realestate.com

9174-2/7/18
.....

Real estate for sale (paid category)

Fishing Lodge for sale in Panama

DanielPeavy

Fishing Lodge for Sale in Panama. Too many assets to
 list all.  Restaurant, bar, pool, 12 cabins, two 1-bedroom duplex, three hectares on the beach, four boats, boat storage, boat ramp, 22 foot panga and more.  Remote and
Beautiful location on the fishing grounds. Built in
clientele list and a turn key operation. For more information and asking price our email address:
aquaad@hawaii.rr.com   Visit the site www.hookedonpanama.com

9284-3/22/18   

Versatile 2 Floors Building for Sale
Holley ad
Completely remodeled building. 14 areas for residence and/or offices, call center, upscale storage. Transportation within 50 meters, commuter train, buses and taxis. School, park, gymnasium, tennis club and National soccer stadium walking distance. 24-hour security, many restaurants, clubs and social facilities nearby.

Approximately 323 meter construction. $295,000. Contact  Jim Holley, E-Mail: jimmy6902001@yahoo.com Local CR phone: (506) 8912-5651

9266-12/5/17


Charming country home in the mountains above San Ramon
Bril Cajar

Lot size is 500 square meters, total construction about 212 square meters, with living area of about 156 square meters. Three bedrooms (or two and an office), two and one half baths, shop/storage of about 30 square meters. Carport with space for two cars about 30 square meters. Completely fenced property. The area is peaceful and very secure.  For complete information click here

Contact Harv  in English and Spanish: Email cap@lightsurfer.com   Contact Marco in Costa Rica (Spanish) : Email- marvama05@gmail.com -Phone- +506-84608000 or +506-86672823.   Web page:  www.costarica-house.com Or CLICK HERE FOR MORE COMPLETE INFORMATION
9274-11/30/17


Colinas del Sol
COLINAS DEL SOL Fenced Gated Lots for Sale

* Colinas del Sol is a fenced and gated project  in a quiet area.
* There are 88 clear titled lots.
* Mountain areas with great views.
* Gently sloping level areas ideal for hobby farms, gardening, fruit trees.
* Quiet place to get away from the busy city and beach crowds.
* All lots have gravel roads to them, water and electricity at each.
* Lots are 5,000 sq. meters or larger, starting at only $50,000 USD
* Located in Libertad, Guanacaste, northwest Pacific area of Costa Rica.
* 20 minutes to the Liberia International Airport
* 15 minutes to the Pacific Beaches
* 10 minutes to Medical Facilities
* 25 minutes to the Liberia Hospital
* 5 minutes to Vista Ridge Golf Club

Contact:
In Costa Rica, Jeffrey Sandi Murray:  jsandimurray@colinasdelsolcr.com
In the USA and Canada contact Jim Day: jimday50@aol.com or call 517-484-3675

For more information Click Here: www.colinasdelsolcr.com
9261-3/2/18




Costa Rica Penthouse

Costa Rica Penthouse For Sale

 Enjoy the most spectacular views in the valley in this 5 -story Penthouse.  One of a kind property on top of the Corobici / Crowne Plaza Hotel in Sabana overlooking the Central Park and new Soccer Stadium in San José.  Excellent location provides you easy access to everywhere.  Other benefits include 24-hour security, 2 restaurants inside the hotel plus other businesses.  Large Living Room, Elevator goes directly inside Penthouse.  Private hot tub deck and Dance floor with Spectacular views!!!  All exterior walls are glass or have windows. Commercial license is in place.  Seller will consider owner financing.  Asking $695K U.S.  Also available for monthly rent for $3,500 per month on an annual basis.  This is a private condo residence and is Not associated with the Crowne Plaza Hotel.  

Go to www.ThePenthouseCostaRica.com  
U.S. contact: Carl Stratton, cell phone: 813 310-7402  Email crstratton@ymail.com
Costa Rica contact:  Dan Wise, phone numbers:  2232-4063 / 2232-8610  Email: danwisellawyer@yahoo.com
 CODE 9229-12/6/17



Puriscal home
GORGEOUS MOUNTAIN & OCEAN VIEW HOME
REDUCED $40K - $355,000
HEALTH CONDITIONS REQUIRES QUICK SALE
This is a gorgeous, new, 3-bedroom luxury home on 2.2 flat acres in a secure, gated community, high in the hills of Puriscal, with stunning, 180-degree views of the ocean, city and mountains of the Central Valley in Costa Rica. Centrally located in the heart of Costa Rica, you are never more than an hour from the Pacific beaches while being much less than that to the culture, shopping, services and night life of the San José, Escazú, Santa Ana and the whole Central Valley. The Altos de Antigua gated community sits at an altitude of 2,800 feet with mild temperatures year round. Features wide paved roads and cement culverts throughout, a large community pool & spa with changing rooms & showers. The community association fees are $42 a month ($500 annually).
This property is currently being offered for $355,000.00 U.S.
Purchase adjoining 2.2 acre investment lot with the home sale for $35,000.00 U.S. or separately for $55,000.00 U.S.
 
    Summary of House Features:

       * Completed 2012 to North American standards
       * 3 large bedrooms, 2 full baths
       * Custom designed kitchen w/granite countertops
       * Frigidaire Professional appliance package
       * State-of-the-art solar hot water
       * Eco-friendly Toshiba LED lighting
       * LG Multi-Split air conditioning system
       * House & perimeter security alarm system
       * 2-car closed garage w/large paved driveway
 
Video Tour: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AUEAmahIU9A
Community Web Site: http://www.altigua.com
Photos: HERE!
Costa Rica # 506-8985-6705 or from the States call # 561-740-0651 or email gary_one@msn.com


            Real estate-related services
 
                                    (paid category)


Costa Rica Solar

COSTA RICA SOLAR
Serving Atenas and Surroundings Areas

BUY NOW! Your solar hot water system, so in three months, we can calculate a lower install price for your PV system.  Perfect for homes and hotels. Save up to 40% of your electric bill. More Watts per Panel, Smarter and more Capable Enphase Micro Inverters mean Less Cost and more Flexibility for You.  Fully Guaranteed!

CALL TODAY!
Office: 506-2446-0543
Andre 506-8314-8090
Paul 506-8898-9398

OUR EMAIL:
andrefurlong@gmail.com
Paul.Furlong@CR-Solar.com
VISIT OUR WEB:
BuyaTimeshare.com
Browse timeshares for sale and rent by owner in Costa Rica at bargain prices. We connect existing timeshare owners with those looking to buy or rent a timeshare on the resale market. Timeshares on the resale market are up to 50% cheaper than those sold through the resort. Already own a timeshare and looking to sell? Stop saying “sell my timeshare” and let BuyaTimeshare.com help you find a buyer or renter.






CODE 9264-3/2/18
...
......
  Page One is HERE!     Page 2 is HERE! 
Page 3 HERE!      Page 4 is HERE!
  
Page 5 is HERE!  Page 7 is HERE! Sports is HERE!
Opinion is HERE!   Classifieds are HERE! 
Plus useful links
NEXT PAGE

Some of our other titles:
A.M. Panama
A.M. Colombia
A.M. Guatemala
A.M. Honduras
A.M. Cuba
A.M. Nicaragua
A.M. Venezuela
A.M. Central America
A.M.
Dominican Republic

A.M. Ecuador A.M. El Salvador
A.M. Bolivia

Sports
Calendar
Opinion
Classifieds
Real Estate
Lifestyle
Food
About us

The contents of this Web site are copyrighted by Consultantes Río Colorado S.A. 2017 and may not be reproduced anywhere without permission. 
Abstracts and fair use are permitted.  Check HERE for details